I have to agree. This argument that seems to be going around is that it is ok to let your kids read about lurid sex acts as long as the information is being consumed on MY watch.
Exactly what do these parents think is going to happen? That their kid is going to come forward with questions about the dynamics of group sex, abuse, rape for discussion? Not going to happen unless you sit there and read it with them.
The next point is, “well I don’t want my kid to live in a vacuum.” I understand this point, I really do, but this is where you do pre-teaching. You can explain to them ahead of time in general terms the type of stuff that is out in the world and the type of stuff that is in books, so by they time they ARE exposed, they will be prepared and be able to view and hear this stuff through a better moral lens. People might not think so, but this makes all the difference in the world, seriously.
Another common fear here is that, well if they aren’t exposed to this “real world stuff,” in high school [or at summer camp, which is how my parents did it, with tragic results] When they get to college or out in the big world they will be naive and vulnerable.
No, not if you have planned for this ahead of time. By the time they go to college, and they have been exposed to morals, they WILL be prepared, without having to have direct exposure to it before hand. They DO NOT have to read about sexual depravity first hand to know that it exists, what is out there and how to avoid it, what it can do to you.
I know that even with all the moral preparation in the world, things might or will happen when they leave your roof. With the proper grounding and education from YOU, and the church hopefully, such experiences don’t have to own them. I hope all of this makes sense.
I apologize to the folks that think differently. There is no perfect formula, and most people parent the very best way they know how, and truly what works for some, might not work for others. It is just my wish that people in here understand, that going the cautious way, is not inferior to ways we are arguing for in this thread, it just isn’t, not if you take control of the situation and pre-teach.
Blessings to all.