Help with Scruples and Confession?


#1

Hello,

This is my first post here and I was wondering to see if anyone can help me with my spiritual dilemma.

I am very scrupulous to an insane degree. I worry about everything, to the point where I just stop praying because I think im doing it wrong. I can never pray mentally or out of a book out of fear of not doing it properly. I am especially scrupulous about confession and my sins.

I know very well the differences between Venial and Mortal sins very well, however I have doubts and confuse them all the time. I fear that a sin I know was venial COULD be mortal, so I confess it. I confess each and every sin I can think of, I go to confession every week, and every time is torture for my conscience. I worry I forgot something, or that I didn’t really commit a sin or that I am not sorry enough.

I am so worried it drives me crazy. Each time after confession I feel good for about an hour, and then doubts about it and things I may have forgotten creep into my mind again. I am lost and don’t know what to do. Right now, I am examining my conscience, and I have only 3 mortal sins, but over 10 venial sins. I literally go through a book with a list of sins and check them off. The Priest I confess to just says to confess whatever sins I want to, and doesn’t really help me with my scruples. What should I do in this regard?

If anyone could help me with this I would greatly appreciate it! What should I do?


#2

You have more than scrupulosity in your religious beliefs. This must also extend to other aspects of your life. Ask your doctor for a referral to a psychologist who specializes in OCD. Your priest may also know a therapist who can help. He has seen this many times before.


#3

I too struggle with scrupulosity, here are the ten commandments for the scrupulous.
mission.liguori.org/newsletters/pdf_archive/Ten_Commandments_for_the_Scrupulous_2013.pdf


#4

Hello, ¸You should seek for professionnal help and help of a priest also.

hope19


#5

You need to find a spiritual director and bring your concerns to him/her.

Read this:

mission.liguori.org/newsletters/scrupulosity.htm


#6

I’m so sorry you are going through this. I am going through something similar and have been for three years–ever since I made my first confession in 7 years. That first confession was not easy, but I didn’t agonize over it the way I do now before all my confessions. Sometimes things get better, and then they get bad again. If you want to p.m. me you can. Maybe we can pray for each other.


#7

Have been there before…spiritual direction really helped. PM me if you would like to talk. Remember that GOD’s LOVE is most important. Small words in a prayer are not.


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