My DH is out of town on business a lot this month, I have a 5 yo DD, a 3 yo DD and a 18 month old DS. I’m also in the first trimester of a pregnancy and all I want to do is cry, throw up and sleep.
I can begin to identify with you, Jenny, as I have a toddler and a 6 month old, as well as a very roiled first-trimester stomach! Thank God my DH doesn’t have to travel for his job (he teaches high school), but he is very dedicated and is gone and busy every day from 7 a.m. until after 3 p.m. To me, this often *feels *like he is out of town! :o
Many friends have been very generous in helping out with watching my kids from time to time so I can rest, bringing me meals and so forth, but I just want to be with my DH and that’s just not going to happen this month. I don’t want to whine to him because I know he feels bad enough having to go. Can anyone relate to this and does anyone have any good advice?
What would we do without friends?! My dear MIL has proven to be a good friend and helps me out a lot, too. It’s funny, though, how as soon as I am back by myself with the girls, it seems as if she was never there helping to begin with! I wish that I had your self-restraint about complaining to DH, because I do whine at him a lot when he calls me on breaks. (“I feel lousy, the house is a mess, the kids are screaming, etc.”) He’s told me how hard this is on him (as he is a very caring husband and father), so I really need to work harder on my Lenten resolution not to complain. :o
I wish that I could offer some good advice. Sometimes I feel like I’m hanging on by a thread. I do try (as silly as this sounds) to deliberately take a deep breath between my children’s screams (“breathing into the quiet,” as I call it). It helps a little, as when I breathe too shallowly for too long, my stomach hurts and I begin to panic. I also try to keep the house as quiet as I can while they’re napping (if they actually nap at the same time! ), so as to prolong the quiet and give myself a chance to nap or read or something.
I wish that I had more helpful advice, but please know that you are not alone. I’ve said a prayer for you!