I found this site yesterday while doing a search for an online Catholic community that is faithful to the Magesterium and B16. I just wanted to introduce myself before diving in.
I have been married for 19 years to my wife and I have seven boys (yes, all boys) aged 16-3. My family converted to Catholicism when I was 7, and my wife is a lifelong Catholic.
In the past I’d say 18-24 months, my wife has taken the hard line that she is “done” having kids and I am really struggling with that. When she was pregnant with Ben, our 3 year old, she said she never wanted to be pregnant again. I know she’s tired and burned out and feeling old (she’s 41) but I want to be open to life. She wants me to get a vasectomy and she is threatening to get a tubal ligation if I don’t do it within the next 3 months. Until then, it’s condoms or no sex. She said if she gets pregnant again she will kill me (not really, but you know the saying.)
Really having a hard time with this. I fear for her salvation, for her health, and for our marriage. In every other respect we are pretty good. She is a great wife and mom, hardworking, smart and loving. I really can’t complain as a husband I have been lucky. But this has come between us, and I need prayers and I need help keeping her from making a huge mistake and sinning. Most of my buddies think we’re nuts for already having the boys and they don’t see much wrong with getting “the snip” or whatever is is.
Thanks for listening.