[quote="Flamingo, post:1, topic:186911"]
I am 16 years old and have never been in a serious dating relationship (or any legitimate relationship at all, for that matter).
I don't feel pressured to be in a relationship. I *like * that I'm able to have pure friendships with boys. The boys that I am close friends with respect me as their Sister in Christ and I appreciate it very much.
In summery, I'm not necessarily looking for a dating relationship. But if the possibility arises where I'd like to date someone, I'd feel unsure about the situation as a whole. I just don't see the purpose of typical high school dating as a young Catholic who has no intention of marrying until a later age.
I’m just so young that dating seems so pointless. I’ve always viewed dating as a precursor to marriage. Every date is a potential mate is a phrase I stand by.
But if I ever would want to date someone while still in high school, would it be ok? How would I go about doing that while still holding strong faith?
Regardless, it just all seems to lack a purpose.
Would you please share with your experiences from when you my age and beyond and any advice you have for me?
First of all, I wasn't allowed to date until I was 19 and my family made sure there was no opporunity. I felt like I was cloistered. Some kids said they snuck out, I dunno if it was my strict Italian Catholic family, but there was no escape for me :p Anyway, I am eterally grateful for being kept out of trouble, that's for sure. My first BF was a friend of the family and would not have dared to not tow the line. In addition, I feel that at 19 I was given a solid foundation, and was adamantly unwilling to go against the moral teachings of my family. That said, I was never pressured to do something immoral, and no matter how much you like a guy, don't ever let him pressure into doing something immoral.
That said, like you, I thought then, and now, that a high school relationship was a relationship going no where. That's not to say that you might meet someone and really really like that person and develop a romantic relationship with them, and I've known people who actually married their HS sweetheart, but in general I agree with you.
However, if you find yourself drawn to that special guy, just use your brain and the morals and values you know to be correct, and follow them. If it's okay with your parents, go ahead and have fun. The rules don't say you can't have fun: go to the movies, go for a walk, study together, go shopping together, you know, doing good clean fun things. But I am adamant that a girl should not ever be unattended with a guy for a good long time (mom upstairs, family around, within earshot). If you're going to listen to any advice, listen to that please. Hang out in places where there are other people and don't be in each other's homes when you're alone. And follow your parents' rules - always.
Also, keep going to Church, Communion and keep praying.