Good afternoon friends. I guess this is another of my quarterly guilty, beat-yourself-up inspired posts that I occasionally start.
From the title, you can see that I am beating myself up because I fear that my position on SSM is causing me to be (falsely) labeled as a homophobe. I think some background would help.
My husband’s sibling is SSA. I knew this before I got married but after our engagement. My husband did not receive anywhere near the Catechism schooling that I did. As a result, he did not understand the concept of scandal, which is something I fully understood. Early in our marriage, I caved into some thoughts and actions that I knew were wrong (and led to scandal) in order to “keep the peace” with my husband and in-laws. I am a pleaser and rather passive, so I did not stand up for myself (and our faith) and, quite frankly, was too afraid to in some cases. Now, many years later, my husband and I fully understand the teachings of the Church and the sin of scandal.
This is where I get accused of being a homophobe by I now bear witness to the Church’s teaching on SSA where at one time I was wishy-washy. I am not obnoxious about it, as that is not my personality, but I stand my ground. So, does that make me a homophobe? I don’t think so, but enough people accuse me of that (and of not being compassionate) that I am really starting to wonder if stating the Catholic position equates me being a homophobe. Should I just keep my mouth shut?
Thank you for your consideration.