Hello! I want to start by saying that although I am no longer Catholic and have a difficult relationship with Catholicism, I will try my best to be respectful and I hope you will do the same for me.
I was raised by relatively liberal Catholic parents in a city where more than 90% of the population is Catholic. Growing up, I found it very difficult to reconcile my religion with my love of science (big bang, evolution, etc.), and eventually found that I had to choose one above the other. I chose science, and drifted away from religion for ages before I finally called myself Agnostic.
I’m also a lesbian and I hope to marry a woman through the government someday. As a child, people outside of my family indirectly taught me that homosexuality was a sin. It made self acceptance extremely difficult as well as caused resentment towards Christianity. I’ve also found that nearly all Catholic people are prejudiced when it comes to the gay community, and overall it has severely impacted my respect for organized religion. It’s very difficult for me to appreciate my Catholic background when its primary contributions to my life were oppression and self-hatred. But over time, I’ve gotten tired of instinctively judging people for believing something I don’t, and I want to stop being prejudiced towards Catholic people.
So that’s why I am here. I want to learn more about Catholicism objectively and secularly so I can reduce my resentment and appreciate my Catholic roots, and there are a few of things I want to start with.
For people who are Catholic and also accepting of homosexuality, how did you come to have this opinion and how do you reconcile it with Catholic teachings?
For people who put science above the bible yet still manage to be religious, how do you balance both?
(NOTE: I am not looking to be converted to Catholicism or to be reprimanded for my sexuality, so please don’t do that. You really won’t get anywhere and it’ll only add to my negative bias.)
Thank you all!