:thumbsup:I second Cat's recommandation and find your question a very good one: indeed, save the "big trip of your life" for another time than your honeymoon. If you plan to start having kids soon, then you may just schedule said big trip 3 months after the wedding so that you would still be able to make it.
As for us, we're French, so got married in France, and we had thought about Iceland for our honeymoon. But we switched to Scotland precisely because we didn't want to find ourselves somewhere where we would think "oh, if we don't see that and that instead of lying around enjoying being married, we'll never get a chance to see them again in our lifetime":shrug:. Neither did we want to have to get up early in order to be able to make special excursions. Moreover, it IS true that you will be exhausted after all the wedding preparation and wedding stress.:cool:
So it just depends on your means and your plans for the future (kidswise)
- as for us, we knew we wouldn't start TTC for quite a long time after being married, so there would be plenty of time to make big trips. So we didn't schedule anything else after our honeymoon, and chose a 10 day honeymoon in the Highlands, with beautiful landscapes, where we were able to alternately wander around hand in hand in the sun, stop every few minutes to admire the gorgeous sceneries (or to kiss), visit 1 or 2 castles, lie around in cosy B&Bs, eat (a LOT !), sleep, laugh and talk watching a few episodes from the "Friends" series while it was raining outside. Basically, we had the opportunitty for some sightseeing, and indeed did some, but nothing compelled us to do it and we could decide on a day-to-day basis what we wanted to do without feeling guilty for "missing things". We knew we would have every opportunity to come back later, with or without kids (in fact, I'm now planning our big comeback for next summer !);).
The good thing, too, was that there was still enough to do if we had found ourselves in the fertile time of NFP and had needed to keep ourselves a bit busier... :D Thank God, we didn't.
- if you plan to have kids soon and would like to make a big trip a few months after your wedding while you're still just the 2 of you, then follow Cat's advice: a short, inexpensive honeymoon in a beautiful, secluded room in a close place with not much to do except some nice restaurants and a few romantic strolls. :)
Enjoy your time !
Edit: I have to edit because rereading Cat's post, it's just so spot on !!! everything she says here is very, very true, especially this :
[quote="Cat, post:4, topic:218556"]
You need time to get comfortable with each other in the marriage bed. If you are in a tourist spot, you will be able to "avoid" each other and avoid having deep conversations and experimenting with the marriage bed because you'll feel obligated to "get your money's worth" and go see all the tourist attractions.
This means that if you are having any kind of sexual issues, you'll be able to brush them under the rug and ignore them during the honeymoon. Hopefully you took care of issues like money, children, family, jobs, chores, housing, etc. during your courtship/engagement. But sex--well, hopefully you DIDN'T take care of those issues during courtship! The honeymoon is the time to start figuring things out about sex and discovering how to do it. Take care though--it's NOT the time to get everything perfect! Far from it--sex is a lifelong learning experience.