[quote="bookerabear, post:1, topic:311921"]
My 41 year old daughter claims she went to Confession and asked the priest if it was 'OK to lie to my parents'. Two priests told her it was OK since, at her age. What she does is none of her parents business. She admits she lies. :shrug:
The subject we talk about is why she is drunk. She claims she has not been drinking even though I can smell it on her breath, she has slurred speech and is staggering and even falling down. She's a single Mom with two children, 10 and 12.
Do priests give such replies?
Is it wrong for me as a parent to approach her on her drinking?
Also she comes back with the 'judge not' line. I think it's everyone's duty to not let someone drink and drive or to drink and have it affect the lives of their children.
Adult children are not answerable to parents the way minor children are. To a certain extent they can tell their parents to butt out of their business. A priest might tell an adult child that is not necessary to explain one's actions to a parent. But that's a far cry from permission to actually LIE to a parent.
However anyone, relative, acquaintance, or stranger, can make it their business to protect themselves and others from those who are driving while drinking. And anyone can alert the authorities when children are in danger.
This is not a matter of your daughter failing to honor her parents. This goes beyond that. Your daughter is engaging in behavior that is unsafe to her children and to the general public. The mistake you are making is thinking that you should keep this between yourselves and your daughter. I think it's time to take it beyond the family. Be brave and contact the civil authorities the next time you see her get in car while drinking.