I would like to know, how far does this go?
Just for a little background: Both of my parents have been divoriced/remarried about 3-4 times each. My Dad has been married to his current wife for about 16 years or so, and my Mom is seperated from her current husband and is seeing someone else right now.
My Mom has ALWAYS had a major insecurity issue about my step-mothers, and from my understanding has been the main cause behind all of my Dad’s divorces because of that. She always does the: “I’m the REAL Mom,” thing. And my Dad’s wife is great and loves us kids just as much as any real parent. She’s also from the south so she refers to us as her kids and not just her step-kids, which drives my Mom insane and has been the cause of many fights over the last 16 years or so.
Now that I have a son, she’s doing the “I’m the REAL grandmother thing now.” My son has 4 sets of grandparents. This is unacceptable.
Today is my son’s 1st birthday. We were planning a party this weekend for all family members. We refuse to make our son pay for our parent’s mistakes and have seperate birthdays, etc. We’re going to have one birthday party (this weekend), with everyone, and all the presents & cake will be done on one day. We think this will be the most fair, so noone gets special treatment.
Now Mom wants to come over tonight and have an early present and come over for his real birthday. We told her she can come over and visit any time, but no presents. Not even a small early one which is what she’s suggesting. Now she’s upset.
On the surface, it seems pretty innocent. Grandma wants to come over and give her grandson a special present on his actual birthday. That’s what I would like to believe. What say you?