Anytime you start listening to the voice in your head saying that you need to break a Commandment to be happy, give your head a shake. It’s the Deceiver who wants to make a train wreck of your life.
Sex before marriage. Lets look at some effects of how sex before marriage has made people happy.
How many millions of abortions were done because of 2 people who had sex without being married? How many broken hearts and regrets that go with these abortions, not to mention a first born baby never seeing a first birthday. This is not good for women or babies.
The amount of people infected with sexually transmitted diseases has skyrocketed, plus the number of diseases you can catch. Faithfulness to the Commandments would erase this plague, and we have more than ever. What a wedding gift for your wife. Lord have mercy!
How many divorces have happened because someone woke up one day and said “What on earth was I thinking” because they had sex and bonded with a person they should never had a second date with. How many children are from broken homes? A train wreck, and one that goes on for generations.
I could go on, but here’s the truth. Don’t listen to that liar that says you have to break a Commandment to be happy. It’s the path to a disaster, one that isn’t instantly obvious, but you have the benefit of seeing the fruit of others’ mistakes.
I think you need some building up of confidence that God is in your life and that he is interested in Godly dating and Godly marriages. Read some stories in the Old Testament of Godly men and women and see the blessing they came into. In Christ we have the power of God to change the world. Becoming like the world neutralizes this power and makes the Deceiver happy. He’ll have won and he’ll move on to another poor soul, whispering into another ear.
Right now you are single. Be the light to the world you are called to be by treating women in a Godly manner. The world needs your example of Christ in the world, especially in how to date. At some point when you do meet your life partner, strengthen your resolve to live a married life that glorifies God. One step at a time. Show God you mean business in being faithful and hang on to his hand. You won’t be disappointed, and you won’t have regrets. God bless and strengthen you today.