How can God and my girlfriend forgive me


My girlfriend was aborted in this month. I’m very cared about she s health and God will not be forgive me. Im trying to pray. but I still afraid that God dont forgive me .So I really hope God condone me, but I dont know what`s my doing can fix my mistake except pray.

On other hand Now, My girlfriend want break up with me, because she told me that she cant forget this bad memory. But I love her so much and I want marry her. In this time, she dont revert any information .Cooking something is only I can do for her. I really hope we are together again, I want fix this relationship .I don’t know what`s my doing.

So .please gives me some advice and helps me pray to God for my first baby in heaven .

Thank you anyone God bless you


I am so sorry for your loss.

Nothing that you do is beyond God’s forgiveness. He’s waiting for you to come to Him and trust in His mercy.

I’ve heard many suggestions around here about rachel’s vineyard for post-abortion healing. I think the website is (or something like that).

ETA I think that the Sacrament of Reconciliation is the first step for you to heal. Not only will your sin be absolved (if you are truly sorry), but God will give you the graces to help you heal. Don’t be afraid to go to confession and don’t put it off.



I am guessing you are from China?

Do you have a priest that you can confess this to? Was this abortion forced by the state?

Simply put, you should be married, and not getting your girlfriend pregnant. But your heart is in the right place. Speak with a priest, go to confession. God will forgive you.

I can not make promises that your relationship with your girlfriend will heal. However, God certainly has the power to heal the relationship for you. And He will heal your relationship if He thinks that is what is best for the two of you. Trust God.

I will pray for you. That is such a sad loss. Here in the U.S. we are not pressured by the government to have abortions so I can not fully understand what it is like for you in China. If you stand up and do the right thing in China, you will certainly be an inspiration for those of us who have it easy in the U.S.


thanks masondoggy and Black Jaque

Black Jaque currently Chinese government as like U,S we are not pressured by the government to have abortions.

Today China development so fastly ,but China have long time history some people still have traditional thinking . They think abort is a very bad things.

if you have 18-years old the government shouldn`t care about you abortion. but a few religionary people have pressure in himself inside .


i am very sad about this. i want to break up with u when i saw this. but i love u. i cannot live without u.
god help me.


You both should speak to a priest. God will forgive you, go to Confession.


I ask God’s healing for you both for your loss
I ask God’s healing for the wound that this abortion has caused in you and in your relationship.
Ask God’s forgiveness together,
and ask each other for forgiveness for the death of your child.
Together, ask your child in heaven to forgive you.
The baby will forgive you because his heart is good and pure.
Ask God to help you begin again.

These roses are for God to give your baby.
God bless you both, Trishie


From the Bible, a prayer (psalm) to God:

Have mercy on me, O God in Your goodness,
in Your great tenderness, wipe away my faults;
wash me clean of my guilt,
purify me from my sin.

For I am well aware of my faults,
I have my sin constantly in mind,
having sinned against none other than You,
having done what You regard as wrong.

You are just when You pass sentence on me,
blameless when You give judgement.
You know I was born guilty,
a sinner from the moment of conception.

Yet since You love sincerity of heart,
teach me the secrets of wisdom.
Purify me with hyssop until I am clean;
wash me until I am whiter than snow.

Instil some joy and gladness into me,
let the bones You have rushed rejoice again.
Hide Your face from me sins,
wipe out all my guilt.

Be my saviour again, renew my joy,
keep my spirit steady and willing;
and I shall teach transgressors the way to You,
and sinners will return.

Save me from death, God my saviour,
and my tongue will acclaim Your righteousness;
Lord, open my lips,
and my mouth will speak out Your praise.

Sacrifice gives You no pleasure,
were I to offer holocaust, You would not have it.
**My sacrifice is this broken spirit,
You will not scorn this crushed and broken heart.” **(Psalm 51)


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