Quck background, she was seeing somone behind my back for a few months. I caught them, and she said it was over but was having a hard time cutting the cord and actually ending it, and it bit us again a month later.
I’m not willing to give up on us, and she says she isn’t either. But, she doesn’t want to talk to anyone about this, and I promised I would never tell anyone (meaning people we know). I don’t think bottling all this up inside of ourselves and trying to start again without some sort of help is a good idea. I desperately want to have a BETTER marriage than before, and she says that she does too. But, she also says that she doesn’t feel comfortable talking to a stranger about this. I’m the only person she can talk to about it, and I’m not an unbiased party. I can’t be sure she’s even telling me everything she’s keeping inside.
All I want is to not screw this up. It’s too important.
If anyone has any sort of advice out there, I’ll gladly listen.
Should I slow down a little? Let things settle a little more? Give her more time to deal with “letting go” before “reconnecting”?
Seriously, I’m lost, and I can’t afford to get this wrong.