Our first baby is due just before Christmas, and we are both excited about our imminent arrival!
I converted just four years ago, but have always had a faith, I was just looking for a pathway before. My DH was not brought up within any faith, and says he doesn’t really believe in anything, but occasionally comes out with comments that make me hope that deep down there is a small part of him that does, but being a blokey bloke, maybe wouldnt “admit” this (typical english lad!)
He is however perfectly happy for our baby to be baptised and brought up within the Church, and is pretty supportive of me in this. (None of his family are catholics).
I (subtly) try and encourage him, but know if I push too much, he will take several steps backwards! He has agreed to attend baptism classes (I said that he could just sit and listen, but that he needed to know what was expected, and the format of the service), and hopefully may have persuaded him to come to church to help me with the baby now and again. I am really hoping that if he comes, he may hear something that will strike a chord.
I know I cant make him have a faith in God, but as I love him so much, I really want him to, for his own sake, but also for the benefit of our little family. I love to see mum, dad and children at mass, sharing their faith, and hope that one day we will be like that as well.
He is a really good, kind person, and I think he has agreed to these things because he wants to please me, but other than praying for him to find God, is there anything else I can do?
Or should I do anything other than pray? I know it is up to him to make his own choices, but I would not be showing my love for him if I was not concerned about his faith - it may be that he has deep down, and just does not feel comfortable discussing this, even after several years of marriage! Maybe assuming he has not because of outward appearances, I am judging him, and should not be! Only he and God know what is in his heart after all!
I am really lucky, he is so supportive of my faith, and my wish to bring our child up in the Church, I just really want to share this with him.
Any suggestions gratefully received!