Ok. First off, I haven’t actually asked him for help yet.
As it stands right now, his only 3 jobs are to:
empty the dishwasher (2 days after I ask - dishes are piled up)
take out the trash (always overflowing onto the floor and stinking)
clean the litter box (the cat goes outside now because he never does it)
I do everything else and we have a 2 year old and I’m 7 months pregnant. I’m getting TIRED.
I work full time and he’s a farmer so right now, they work about 2 hours a day then he’s home. 2 year old is in daycare all day. When he gets home from work, he parks his butt in his recliner and watches tv ALL day and ALL evening. He rarely plays with DD unless she happens to walk by when there is a commercial on.
Our house is a constant wreck. Its clean but messy. Our DD scatters her toys all over and I can’t hardly bend down to pick them up anymore. I used to pick up her toys every night after I bathed her and put her to bed but now I’m exhausted after working all day and then cooking dinner and doing the bedtime routine with our daughter. So after she goes to bed, I go right to bed too.
I always sort of thought of it as “Oh well, thats his loss. The kids are going to love me more since I spend all the time with them” but now, its really starting to make me mad. I can’t stand the sight of him sitting in his stupid chair watching his stupid tv. He always watches stuff thats way inappropriate for having a kid around (and I tell him as much).
I know I should just ask him nicely to please pick up DD’s toys while I’m giving her a bath or something or please do this or that, but he always acts like its such a big deal and gets half mad. If I blow up at him and say something like “Oh, sorry, I forgot you were busy sitting on your butt and watching tv, I’LL DO IT MYSELF”, then he tells me to calm down and says he was only joking… Yeah right.
I just want him to share the housework without me having to ask him. I hate to nag him and I know that won’t get me anywhere anyway.
So without starting a HUGE fight, how can I get him to help me more. I feel like a slave in my own home. I get tired of telling my DD “Just a minute” because I have to do everything else.