How can I get out of this?


#1

I hate it when you are pressured to sin. Though this is something kind of different in relation to suffering for Christ. Sometimes “someone” wants to avoid phone calls from a certain person(s). I think she tells us to say “She’s not here.” and I seriously hate lying like that. My brothers and I have sometimes said, “Can I take a message?” but one time the guy kept on asking for her (continously keeping her anonymous in this message :D) and we just hung up. I’m afraid if he we give the phone to her she might ground us (there’s a hint) and this the person is most *likely *to call AGAIN :mad: . So what should I do? Be rude and hang up?


#2

There has been for some time the practice of “Moral Reservation.” For instance, if someone were trying to kill your brother and your brother was in the next room; as far as this person is concerned, you don’t know where your brother is. You have no obligation to answer personal questions, if you don’t want to. You may politely say, “I don’t know.” As far as that person is concerned, you don’t. If you feel uncomfortable with the phone situation, you should let folks know that you will not cover for anyone and stop answering the phone.

May God bless you for your faith,
Deacon Tony SFO


#3

“Moral reservation” ? Is that like trying to be literal?

Well I think I’ve told her that I didn’t to tell her I lied before but… I think she told me to just do it any.


#4

**I don’t see a moral dilemma here. This is simply a case of a need for a polite but firm answer. The person who is putting you in this situation is simply making your life difficult.

Tell the caller that she doesn’t wish to speak with him. You may also ask the caller for his number and take it – once. The message should be clear. You have no obligation to stay on the phone for more than a moment.

If you can afford it, get caller id and simply ignore the offending calls. An answering machine is probably even cheaper and can be used to filter incoming calls.**


#5

Ronnel,

When they call and ask for her, reply, “She is not available. Would you like to leave a message?” If they then go on to say, “Come on, let me talk to her,” or “When will she be back,” just repeat your offer to take a message. If they ever get rude or won’t go away, just hang up. If the problem continues, don’t speak to them at all and just hang up as soon as you know it is them.

I assume you cannot avoid answering the phone for some reason, like your parent or whoever makes you answer.

She is not available is not a lie, because she is not available to the person who is calling. You are saying that, “She is not available to you.”

I’m sorry you are in this position. You should not be put in it.:frowning:

P.S. If there is ANY danger that the person on the other end of the phone will get violent and come over and hurt someone, you need to get better advice than what we can give! Let us know if you are afraid or something.


#6

This is another good reason to get an answering machine and screen calls.


#7

We have a caller ID and anwesing machine but sometimes pick up the phone :smiley: .


#8

[quote=Ronnel Abrigo]I hate it when you are pressured to sin. Though this is something kind of different in relation to suffering for Christ. Sometimes “someone” wants to avoid phone calls from a certain person(s). I think she tells us to say “She’s not here.” and I seriously hate lying like that. My brothers and I have sometimes said, “Can I take a message?” but one time the guy kept on asking for her (continously keeping her anonymous in this message :D) and we just hung up. I’m afraid if he we give the phone to her she might ground us (there’s a hint) and this the person is most *likely *to call AGAIN :mad: . So what should I do? Be rude and hang up?
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CALLER ID or tell that person the truth or change your phone number.


#9

Then just tell the guy the truth: She does not want to speak to you right now. I will tell her you called and she’ll call when she does want to talk to you. Good bye.


#10

new concept! How about an answering machine?


#11

[quote=space ghost]new concept! How about an answering machine?
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t …block the # …can be done…you might have to have caller id…


#12

[quote=Ronnel Abrigo]I hate it when you are pressured to sin. Though this is something kind of different in relation to suffering for Christ. Sometimes “someone” wants to avoid phone calls from a certain person(s). I think she tells us to say “She’s not here.” and I seriously hate lying like that. My brothers and I have sometimes said, “Can I take a message?” but one time the guy kept on asking for her (continously keeping her anonymous in this message :D) and we just hung up. I’m afraid if he we give the phone to her she might ground us (there’s a hint) and this the person is most *likely *to call AGAIN :mad: . So what should I do? Be rude and hang up?
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Maybe try getting a NEW number??


#13

nobody can pressure you to sin without your cooperation. Telling a caller the person he wants cannot come to the phone is not a lie. It is not a lie to hang up, or to tell the caller you will have the number traced and report him to the phone company and DAs office for harrassment and stalking either if he keeps calling, as long as you intend to take those steps.


#14

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