My stepfather-in-law, Gene, died in early May of a heart attack. Although he had heart problems, his death was still sudden and unexpected. He and MIL had just bought their “dream house” in Arizona and planned to retire and move there full-time (previously, they lived there in the winters only). SFIL died the week before they had planned to move in.
MIL is still having a very hard time coping. DH was talking to her tonight and she was speaking very fatalistically, saying that she wanted her grandkids to remember her with fondness like they remembered Gene, etc.
She said she’s gone to two pastors and a therapist to talk about her grief, but all of them were “jerks.” (She wouldn’t elaborate on how they were jerks other then saying that the therapist had a picture of her husband on her desk, which MIL found offensive because it was “rubbing it in” that the therapist had a husband and she didn’t).
She went to a “Christian psychic” :rolleyes: who took her money in exchange for telling her that her husband was fine and happy and wanted her to be happy too. (I could have told her that.) She said that’s the only “comfort” she’s gotten, but she’s still angry at God for taking her husband from her, etc. (FWIW, she’s Protestant.) Understandable, but I’m really afraid she might go over the edge and do something drastic.
Long story short, DH and I are going to go visit tomorrow, and frankly I’m not sure what we can say that might help. DH is going to call Catholic Charities and get a referral to a grief therapist and he’s going to try and persuade her to make an appointment with him/her. Other than that, we’re not too sure what to say to her.
Anyone have experience in this regard?