This is a great thread, because I think it gets to a part of prayer that we often overlook, don’t consider, or feel awkward with. But remember that there are many “images” of God, many perceptions, and some of those are Christ as a “friend” or a “brother”. So don’t feel like you should be talking to him in any particular way.
My suggestion would be to bring everything you wrote in your posts here to the Lord in prayer. Whether that’s at home, in a pew, or in front of the Blessed Sacrament. Just direct your points to Jesus. I’m copy and pasting some things you wrote below, then writing it in the way I’m talking about since it’s easier to see what I mean:
“Hello everybody, i have an important question to ask about praying to God in overcoming sinful addictions.”
…Jesus, I have an important question to ask about praying to you in overcoming sinful addictions
"For more than 10 years, i have been highly addicted to smoking and masturbation… a bit of me blames this because of being almost alone through out my life, Or maybe these sins have made me alone through out my life… Anyway, through out the years I have been praying for the strength to stop. I really do, but I can’t do a full day with out falling back. There are days, in where my dosage is a bit in control where i would take less cigarettes and less masturbation… however it just goes in a repeating cycle.I’ve been praying for these sins to leave my life for good, however i have to admit that my body really “aches”… i try to pray during the moments of craving and only 4/10 times it would be successful. "
…perfect, ask the Lord exactly as is if you want. spill your heart to him. Tell him you find him difficult to pray to if you want to. It won’t offend him. Ask him to help you and try and be more accessible to you.
“I’ve been feeling allot of shame in praying to God for always failing everyday. I feel like i have no right to pray because the mount of guilt, sadness, etc that I feel… i just ran out of things to say to him.”
… I’ve been feeling a lot of shame in praying to You for always failing everyday. I feel like I have no right to pray to You…I just run out of things to say to You.
“How can I just ask for forgiveness and strength every night when i have been failing over and over again?”
… bring to Him as is!
"How can I pray about God to grant the desires in my heart if I can’t honor him by over coming my addictions? "
… Lord,low can I pray to You to grant the desires of my heart if I can’t honor you by overcoming by overcoming my addictions?
“How do you exactly open up to God in a prayer after another failed day?”
…Lord, how can I open up to you in prayer after another failed day?
“I feel like opening with praises is like patronizing already, I’m praying for the same thing yet failing on it”
… I feel like I’m patronizing you, i’m asking you for the same thing and keep failing on it!
“I feel very ashamed and speechless to talk to God. What am i going to pray, a bunch of sorries, help me’s… again?”
… I feel very ashamed and speechless to talk to you. What am I going to pray, a bunch of sorries, and help me’s…again? Seriously, Lord, what am I supposed to get through this!? I’m at a complete loss.
Everything you’re bringing here can be brought to Christ in the same way. It’s even ok to get frustrated and sarcastic with Him. Let him know how you feel deep down. Talk to him like a friend. have a “heart-to-heart”. Pray from the heart, and listen with your heart. Have a conversation with him and spill it out to him. You can start the conversation the same way you would with one of your friends, or the same way you did here on the forum. There’s no formula, you don’t need to start or end a prayer any specific way. Just spill it out on him, frustrations, emotions, and all.
On a more practical level, I recently heard somewhere that temptations last about 15-20 minutes. I don’t know the source or accuracy, but it’s worth considering. Perhaps when you feel tempted, find 15-20 minutes worth of something else to do to redirect that kind of energy and put it towards use in something else. It takes about 15-20 minutes to pray a rosary, for example. Or, go for a walk or run. Call a friend to chat. Write an email. Browse this forum. etc.