Well, kind of… I see what you are saying. But remember there are a few other factors… .
The fact that women are “liberated” now. They can work. They can work full time jobs and support their children, and so now they don’t have to put up with abuse anymore. They can leave… not so in eras past… practically everywhere on earth. Women were basically at the mercy of their father or husband or ‘lord’. They had to do what the man in her life told her … or pay dire circumstances.
There is also the fact that most families supported themselves by themselves- no downtown grocery stores, just family hands working the family farm and each family helping each other. So, there was this great need for everyone to work together… the very well being of all (not just in the family but the community too) depended on everyone sticking together, working together. Today, nope! You can leave. You can get your sustenance at a 711 if you really are in a pinch. Just get a job- the company will keep you alive, so as long as you work for the almighty $$$ for your life’s work.
So i think ‘independence’ can be a factor of the rising divorce rates too. But I agree with you, now that its accepted, its excused… its very free. There is not a whole lot of shame to it.
Honestly, I don’t know where I stand on the issue… should there be shame for choosing what you think is the ‘wrong person’ for marriage? It appears to be an easy mistake to make, if it is. Especially when those young adults have no clue who God is, don’t search for Him, don’t believe. Without a SOLID catachism or belief in faith, how do they expect them to stand? How would those know what love even is?
I think people don’t know their faith, don’t trust in God, don’t W A I T (sexually, and maritally) to find the right person. They don’t’ want to be ALONE so they settle… then when God sends the right one along, there begins the affair, and/or heartbreak, … chaos of hurt and confusion- usually its the children that suffer the most. Do they remember Christ’s words about harming innocents? Its a lie that 'kids are resilient" … so what, every one is built to be resilient but there is only so much one can take. The goal is to protect a young soul so it can grow, just as a gardener knows to protect it seedlings so that it can become a strong healthy vibrant productive plant later.
The Greatest in the Kingdom
…5And whoever welcomes a little child like this in My name welcomes Me. 6But if anyone causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to stumble, it would be better for him to have a large millstone hung around his neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea. 7Woe to the world for the causes of sin. These stumbling blocks must come, but woe to the man through whom they come!