[quote="Lasting_faith, post:1, topic:343602"]
As usual I don't know if this is the right forum but if not, move it.
There was this ordinary chap, nice home, three kids and a Volvo, a job he did like to do and a loving wife. Everything was as OK as it can. He was religious, not too much but he did attend Mass at least one Sunday every month, what church he went to was not important, all he wanted was to hear the Gospels and the homily. He did pray often and had even a Rosary because he had no problem in believing that Our Blessed Virgin do pray for us. One day he went to a Catholic Church and he did like the "feeling" there was. After a few years he was sure that he should convert, and that he did. He did not agree on every point but for him it was "all or nothing". His wife did not convert, she was not the religious type, but had no problem with the fact that she now was married to a Catholic, and she did her best t7o adapt her husbands "new life", she even stop taking "the pill" because she knew it was not what her husband wanted her to use them. A few years everything was as good as it could. But the6 more the man did read The Bible, the CCC and other books about the Catholic Faith, he started to feel depressed because he did start to see sin in almost everything he did or saw. He felt that the teachings become a heavy burden and could not cope anymore. He was sad and did not know what to do, he did talk to a priest but the more he did listen the more he did feel like the worst sinner on earth, even though he did not sin more then we all do. Every sin he confessed kept on bothering him more and more. He did not want to take the kids to the beach anymore because there was "temptations" no matter where he did look, and he was not able to watch the TV due to the fear that he maybe would see something not proper for a Catholic. And the clouds got even darker, he started to cry in his fear of hell and he did confess everything he did as a sin, the priest did what he could, but at some point this man could not attend Mass anymore because he feel he was not worthy to be in the Church anymore. And the more he did read the closer to hell he came. He lost his job because they did provide things that could be used in a sinful manner, the wife did not knew what to do, but she did convert as well in a effort to help her husband. He got more sure every day that no matter what he would do hell was his destination. At some point he could no longer go out because he was sure he would see women dress in a improper way, soon they had to move to a smaller flat, only his wife did get money, his depression did get deeper and deeper, and when all hope was gone he did remember that Christ did say that His burden is easy and light to carry. One day, after many hours of praying he knew what he needed to do, and he went to a Protestant Church and sat there listening to the Sunday homily, and he did realize one important thing, everything is not sin. Needless to say, he never did return to the Catholic Church, but something was still wrong, he was so much afraid of hell that the rest of his life was destroyed. His marriage fall apart, he could not get a job anymore and most likely live on social welfare now. Alas, this story is true, he had never any mental problem before this incident. One life lost, one broken marriage, three kids who hardly will ever see their dad anymore. So, is The RCC give us a to heavy burden to carry?
When I joined the Church in 1954, I was a poster boy for extreme scrupulosity. There is very little that can be described as more painful, subtle, or terrifying. Long story foreshortened by decades, the only way out was for me to be absolutely obedient to the counsel of my priests.
The subtlety of the critical issue is the difference between what is FELT in the normal and healthy course of everyday living, such as anger, sexual arousal, or envy, and what becomes a matter of what we CHOOSE TO DO!
My inclination was to impute feelings to sin when they were anything but.
I earnestly recommend the ministry of St Alphonsus Liguori on the subject of scrupulosity for a way back to wholesome healthy human happiness .(alliteration unintended but appropriate!), and for the relief desperately needed here.
The success of the effort will hang on the willingness to trust the process and the priests chosen by God and guided by His Holy Spirit.
I join my prayers to all the others here who clearly have the same compassion as mine. God bless.