I know a woman in her 30s’. She married her high school sweetheart, they started a life together, had a couple of kids. His National Guard Unit got deployed to Iraq. When he came home he had PTSD. He started self medicating with alcohol and became an alcoholic. He then had several affairs and even hired a prostitute. After years of trying to make it work, taking him to therapy, taking him to rehab, putting up with the fact he couldn’t hold a job and even being scared for the well being of their children, he left her.
She has had a very difficult time for a long time. Recently she met someone else and started a relationship. It would be cruel to tell this women that she can’t marry this man, especially after seeing what she went through to try and save her previous marriage.
I don’t think Christ is cruel.