Hello all! Been perusing these forums a lot but thought I’d finally join and ask for advice about something weighing down my heart.
I'm a sophmore in college and loving it! We have a GREAT catholic ministry there. The Lord is doing amazing things, and I couldn't be happier with the group of people I've met and the journey we're all taking to follow Christ. Like a lot of these stories go.....well there's a girl. Let's call her Katie. She's completely what I imagine a daughter of Christ to be - she's so humble, good, (not to mention beautiful) and wrapped up in praising God with every aspect of her life. Her family is the complete opposite of mine - it's a family so God-centered that it simply radiates to all those lucky enough to know them. I feel completely at ease with Katie. We debate theology, philosophy, movies, books, LIFE for hours. I'm only 20, and I don't really have any 'game', but I know there's attraction and kinship and more between us, and it's growing everyday.
Together we’ve started an apologetics and philosophy club and gotten some of the brightest minds together to search for Truth and dedicate our lives to the Lord. I feel like I could do this FOR LIFE, and would want her by my side fighting with me
But I can’t ask her out…One of my friends, we’ll call him Jared, is head over heels about her too. Jared has asked her out. She’s said no. She was going through a period of discernment, and called to be single right now…and basically said that she cannot date ‘right now’. But everyone knows she wants to be a mom, but you have to date before that!
How the heck do I approach this situation? If I straight up ask her out, I think she would say yes. But I would be betraying a good friend. He is basically in the same boat as me, except he’s been rejected and ‘waiting’ for her to decide. This is gonna sound bad, but I think she’s already decided. So I’m stuck in the middle of this, and no clue how to go about this. What is the right thing to do?