I have two sons (26 and 22). Unfortunately, they are from a broken home. I was divorced from their dad eleven years ago. Since then, I have remarried. The boys lived with me most of the time before they moved out on their own.
They disrespect me consistently. When I say something about it, they either get mad or laugh at me like I am stupid. I have helped both of them financially since they have been out on their own, even though it caused hardship for me. Most of the time I just gave them money, but on the few occassions it has been a loan, it was never repayed. If I asked them about it they would get mad and stop coming around. They never remember me on any special occassions such as birthdays, Mother's Day, etc. I recently moved my elderly parents here and they use them for money also.
I know I need to do something but I just don't know what to do. I have tried everything I know and failed miserably. I think a lot of this has been from the negative influence from their dad but they are adults and should know better. I can't bear the thought of losing them but the way it feels, I already have. Please tell me what you suggest.