Excellent advice. You should not give your kids a choice about this, but you don't have to make it painful for them. Depending on their agaes, that makes it harder on you, but you can continue to offer that up for your wife. Figure out what is a good Mass to go to--when they won't be too hunger from keeping the fast, but also not the boring Mass with tired music and only older people there (you know what I mean). Then be sure you will all be ready on time every morning. Get them up, have their clothes ready, make sure you already have your offering, etc. Your wife should be willing to help you out here even if she's not going herself.
Continue to pray for your wife and talk to her gently to figure out why she doesn't want to go. Maybe ask her to make going each week a Lenten offering. And then follow through with the donuts, lunch out, naptime for mommy or whatever would help her be motivated to go.
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We parents feel the compulsive need to explain but it isn't always necessary. "Why doesn't Mom have to go?" "Because she is over the age of 25. In this house, anyone who is over the age of 25 may decide for themselves whether to go to Mass on Sundays and holy days." End of discussion. Going to Mass needs to become a "house rule" for the kids, just like doing their homework, or their chores, or going to school. If they are not old enough to decide whether to do THOSE things for themselves, then how exactly is it possible they are mature enough to make the call about whether to go to Mass regularly for themselves?
I agree that you need your wife to be on the same page. Even if she personally disagrees with "making them go," she needs to present a united front with you before them. No good cop/bad cap, no allowing your children the opportunity to play both ends against the middle. She needs only be willing to back you up when you say they (the children) are going to Mass and not to undermine your efforts when you enforce the consequences for non-compliance (which, ideally, would be agreed upon by both of you as well- but in the very least, she should be able to assure you that she will go along with your decision and not make faces about it in front of the kids.) I don't think any parents ALWAYS agree with each other on every matter of family life and discipline- that is where "compromise" comes in. Can she live with you taking the kids to Mass with you every week, when it is clearly something very important to you? If not, why not? Was she made to go when she was a child, and is still looking at the issue from the child's point of view? Does she not understand the Church's teaching on this point? Would speaking to someone else about it- a priest, a practicing Catholic friend- help? You need to talk to her and try to understand where she coming at this from, and that may provide the opening you need to work on an acceptable agreement. Make sure she knows that you are not judging her own attendance or lack thereof, and that you will not condemn her in front of the kids for not going just because you expect* them* to, and will not permit them to do so either, if they are of an age where this may be an issue.
Just my 2 cents' worth!