My husband has had an attraction to pornography for some time. At one point, before my reversion to the faith, I bought into the idea that maybe I should watch it with him. This just led to an addiction of my own which I successfully fought and won. I am left though not knowing how to deal with his addiction. At time it makes me so angry I just want to throw it all out (magazines, videos, etc.) but that just makes him mad and I’m not sure of the morality of this. I mean, as bad as it is, it’s his stuff and do I have a right to throw it out? Never mind the conflict this has caused in our marriage the couple times I did throw something out!!
My husband is a new Catholic. He was just baptised almost 3 years ago. He understands my feelings on pornography and how it hurts me, but views it as me having a problem and doesn’t understand why it’s wrong. He also has issues with alcoholism that he does admit is a problem but isn’t at the point where he is willing to seek out help for it (he thinks he can handle it on his own). I just don’t know what to do or how to handle this. Like I said, I get so angry sometimes I just want to take it all, throw it in a garbage bag and pitch it. I know this would make him very angry however so haven’t done it.
I would appreciate any thoughts or helps in this area.
Thank you and God bless, Jen