How do I handle this situation?


Hello. I’m new here so I don’t really know how this works? I was born and raised as a Catholic and drifted far far away from the Church and faith since I was a young teenager. I didn’t think much at all about religion. Recently, however, I have come to find my way back to the Church. I have been attending Mass, gone to confession, will be observing Lent, and have been reading the Bible nightly. The problem though is that for the past year and a half I have been living with my girlfriend. When we first met, and eventually moved in together, I thought nothing about religion, but now it’s different. At first, I knew she was an atheist (you could even call her a devout atheist) and even though I said that I believed in God and Jesus Christ it didn’t matter to much to me because talking about faith without actually thinking about it was about as far as I went. Now, however, I have been finding my way back to the Church and don’t know how to deal with my situation. The chances of me getting my girlfriend to change are slim and none, especially since she just recently told me that there is no chance that she will ever go to any church. I’m deeply troubled don’t know what to do. How do I deal with this?


Dear Frank,

Find another girl friend and don’t live with her. Or at least stop living with this one. Even if you are living in a celibate way with this one (and you should be now–if you want to remain in the state of grace and receive Holy Communion) you can give scandal to others who assume that you are shacking up and are a practicing Catholic.

You are in my prayers.

Fr. Vincent Serpa, O.P.

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