The situation: My mom and I just came back from Church. We had gone to Mass, and then I went into Youth Group afterwards for a couple of minutes, than went back into the Church for Holy Hour (Adoration.)
On the car ride home, my mom was asking me questions. ei: "Why didn't you want to stay in with the rest of the teens?" Questions similar to this. Or, "Why are you being so quiet? You're too quiet, something has to be wrong."
All of my answers were very short, and small. I didn't feel very much like talking. Adoration had been extremely humbling tonight. As we were getting closer to home, she asked why I wasn't talking to her so much anymore. I never used to be like this, etc. etc.
The true reason I know in my heart why I haven't been talking to her when she asks me questions, become 'defensive,' is because I know that she wouldn't understand my answers, from comments she's made in the past. Unknowingly, she'll insult my personal beliefs.("You won't be crucified for not wearing a skirt.") I venture more towards traditional Catholicism, and she just doesn't understand it. I can tell her something about traditional Catholicism, and it'll go in one ear and out the other.
The help I need is how to talk to her. I have no idea how. I always see what has to be changed, but because I'm young, I can't do anything about it. I'm not a legal adult; I can't even volunteer at the parish unless it's a specifically teenage volunteering. Do you know how frustrating it is to have absolutely no power at all? No real say in anything? It's so heartbreaking when I see what's wrong, and I can't fix it.
Please, I want advice, and other perspectives on how to handle this. How can I talk to her so that she understands? I don't want to offend my mom, or grow farther apart from her. Please, don't worry about offending me. Just say it as it is.
Thank you so much,