Thanks for your kind words.
I’ve been praying for him (daily) and offering Mass for him (weekly) for over 10 years now. I totally plan to continue. God has told me in no uncertain terms that I can’t do it for my husband. I know it’s in God’s hands, where it should be.
You hit at the heart of my question. I’m trying to be the best Christian wife I can be…trying to live my life joyfully and faithfully without comprimising my faith. That’s what I’m struggling with right now.
Unfortunately, my husband doesn’t have other Christian examples in his life. When he decided to get a vasectomy against my will he pointed out that his doctor was Catholic and had no problem with vasectomies so obviously it was my own holier than thou problem. The most “devout” and open Christian in his office gets wasted at parties so my dislike of drunkeness is my own holier than thou problem. I feel like I’m fighting the devil alone, although in reality I know Jesus is beside me every step of the way.
[quote=kage_ar]My two pennies (having been a not-very-practicing Christian myself when we married, I converted and agnostic DH followed many years later, I may be able to understand where you are)…
There was a time when I came across as a bit holier-than-thou to DH. We ended up separating - - thank God some wise people gave me sage advice.
As Christians, the Scripture tells us to be salt of the earth and a light on a hill, that people are to know we are Christians by our love. We are supposed to be grand advertising for the joy that comes from Christ. As Catholics, we should shine and be salty, people should want to be around us. Becoming Catholics, we should become better wives. Our husbands should go to work and say “wow, Bob, you should find a Catholic wife – since my wife became Catholic, she is more amazing than ever!”
The question I had to ask myself, if I looked at me from my husband’s eyes – was I being a good advertisement for the joy of our Faith? Nope, I was not. I had to turn that around.
That is my best advice, be the best version of you.
You will never convert your husband. That is the job of the Holy Spirit. Your job is to be the best advertisement for the Faith you can be. Make him wonder what has made you so joyful, and how he can find that joy.
So, rebuild with him. Pray for him. Offer every Mass for him… Be sure that when you come back from Mass – you let him see what a great effect Mass has on you. Keep praying.