How do I stop?


#1

So I just haven't been the person I used to be. I loved God so much and then for some reason I gradually drifted away! I feel so depressed and I'm angry most of the time. I'm starting to look at porn again! I'm just so helpless I don't know what to do I just want God again. I don't know what to do someone help me please! I just want to love God and love others but I just can't anymore and I don't even know why. I want to change but I don't know how!


#2

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So I just haven't been the person I used to be. I loved God so much and then for some reason I gradually drifted away! I feel so depressed and I'm angry most of the time. I'm starting to look at porn again! I'm just so helpless I don't know what to do I just want God again. I don't know what to do someone help me please! I just want to love God and love others but I just can't anymore and I don't even know why. I want to change but I don't know how!

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Definitely spend some time before the Blessed Sacrament. Ask God to help you. He will.


#3

I pray and pray and pray and pray but God still seems distant. I just feel like there's no hope for me. I want to change, but every time I try I just get knocked back down. Today in church I felt better when singing O Come O Come Emmanuel but now I feel so bad again and I just can't stop sinning!


#4

spend some time before the blessed sacrament as already stated above and then remove all of the things from your life that are sinful temptations, throw away movies, delete files, cancel internet and cable if need be. God will help you if you cry out to him, but he also expects you to keep up your end of the bargin.

read up on the cardinal virtues
newadvent.org/cathen/03343a.htm

hang out with a good friend who will help you in the right direction.

and pray.


#5

Spend more time doing something good which is incompatible with the sin you wish to avoid. For instance, get a puppy, and work very hard on puppy training. Go to
clickertraining.com/ for lots of good instruction. Get involved in dog training classes. Work with your dog until you have no time to do the things you don’t want to do. As a side benefit, you will have a well trained dog which will be a good example of how God wanted us to relate to animals in Eden.

Be very clear that nothing we say here is going to make the problem go away, poof. You will have to work very hard. While you are working very hard, the problem will persist, long enough that you will feel that nothing is helping, you will never get rid of the problem, you might as well give up. That is the time when the real work begins. Work harder.

Ask me how I know.


#6

May I also recommend the sacrament of reconciliation?

Here’s the thing, even if you don’t FEEL close to God, even if you try praying, but feel like you’re only giving lip service, KEEP DOING IT. God’s going to honor your faithfulness. Even Mother Teresa had times when she questioned God’s existence.

A year or two ago, I was right where you are…thinking, what’s the point of trying? But I have to keep on going because I know that God is there, He hears us, even if He seems silent.


#7

Thanks for the advice guys I appreciate it. I'm gonna keep working and I don't want to give up. I just want to be with God and I'm not gonna let Satan have me.


#8

First you must repent and seek absolution through the sacrament of penance.

Then

Prayer and FASTING, don't forget the fasting its very important.

You have three adversaries, the devil, the body and the world.

Prayer defeats the devil, fasting defeats the body, and alms giving defeats the world.


#9

I sort of know how you feel. We all go through what I call "dry spells". When it happens to me, I look upon it as a "test" from Him. With that attitude, I try harder than ever to make my way back to Him. :shrug:


#10

I wish to mention a few suggestions, since I have gone through this before.

First, I know that others have said this, but go to Confession. No matter what you say, no matter what your mom, dad, friends, siblings, or the Devil says, go to Confession. It is imperative that you do so during your dry spell so that you can keep yourself accountable before God, your confessor, and, actually, yourself. Otherwise, this “dry spell” is going to lead you into sin, and that’s what the Devil wants.

Secondly, do spend time before the Blessed Sacrament whether in Adoration or just after Communion (if you receive it), and ask him for two things: the gift of chastity, and the gift of self-control. Now, remember that these two go hand-in-hand. So, don’t be like St. Augustine and “pray for continence, but not yet” – that’s probably the worst thing you could probably do at a time like this. Also, remember to tell Jesus your struggle. He will understand what you’re going through (hey, he had to deal with me, and I had the same problem! :thumbsup:). And rely on his Divine Mercy and Mary to keep the Devil away.

Also, I suggest that you pray to some saints here. Now, I don’t know if you’re a man or a woman, but I suggest St. Augustine (if you’re a man) or St. Margaret of Cortona (if you’re a woman). These two have been where you have been, so I’m sure they’ll understand. Indeed, if praying to St. Augustine worked for me, I think he might work for you. :smiley:

And finally, pray the Rosary. This is for two reasons. One, it is a great spiritual weapon: I’ve heard many things about it, from sword to shield to club of truth and even “machine gun” (if I got the Kolbe quote right :o). So, I don’t think Mary wants to abandon you here; she wants to kill the Devils in your life, and this dryness is one of them.

Secondly, it will help in resurrecting your prayer life. For me, what I’ve noticed is that the less I practice my prayer life, the less devout I become. And the less I pray the Rosary, the more that I slack off. Now, I don’t know about the whole situation here, but I suggest that you take up the prayer practices that you did before hand and resolve to never ever stray from them. God will know that you are trying to commit yourself before Him.

So, there you go. And I will keep you in my prayers for tonight.

Through the Sacred Heart, Mary, St. Augustine, & St. Jean Vianney,

Jean-Therese Delacroix


#11

There are some practicle things to do. 1) If you are depressed and angry all the time, and do not know why, you need to seek professional help. See your primary doctor for a physical to make sure that there is not an underlying health condition that can be causing your depression. There are many physical ailments that can adversely effect your mental status.

If you doctor determines that you don’t have an underlying health condition he/she can then review treatment options for depression with you. You may even need to see a psychologist to deal with underlying causes for your anger.

Also stop checking out the porn related stuff. If you feel compusive about doing this, let your health care specialist know. In all aspects of your current situation be honest about everything with your care providers.

Finally, find one thing to do that gets your mind off from yourself. Go volunteer at the local soup kitchen, or the local pound to walk dogs or care for animals. But do something that will help you focus on others and their needs. This is good for the mind and soul.

Don’t give up. If you can’t seem to go to Church every Sunday, at least set a goal for once a week. And try different Parishes for a short while. You may simply need to find a new Parish Home to help you feel more like attending. Seek the advise of the pastor of the Parish you decide to attend on a regular basis.

And yes, in all of this keep praying. I use the Rosary. It is repetative and relaxing. It helps me get my mind off from my own troubles. You may find the same will be true for you.


#12

Guys I really appreciate all of your posts I really do! I've been trying to pray more and this morning I even said a decade of the rosary, I just felt like doing it out of no where. :D Also my friend told me a dream she had last night where she talked to Jesus. She said "Hey Jesus! How are you?" and He said, "I'm good and you?" My friend replied "I'm doing good." and then she went on telling Him how she wants to keep Him in her heart and that she is sorry for her sins and she doesn't want Him to hate her. Then Jesus said "I could never hate you". As I'm typing this my eyes got watery, I just felt so much better after she told me that and I felt as if I could just fall into Jesus' arms and cry. It was wonderful. Another thing that helped me today was reading this message in a book called True Life in God. It's not sanctioned by the Church but I believe that it comes from God because it led me to Him. :D Anyways I just felt like it related to me very much. The message is here tlig.org/en/messages/133/. I also feel like God is trying to tell me to stay happy all the time even in my trials. In Church yesterday we sang O Come O Come Emmanuel and it was good. Last night as well I was watching EWTN and there was a program on G. K. Chesterton and the host was talking about how fun it is to fight evil or something. Well that was basically my day and I'm really hanging in there I don't want to give up. Oh and I'm going to confession tonight at 7:00.


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