Wow abbie what a scary answer! why would you stop a desperate person from trying anything at all? Especially AA which has a better success rate than anything else. Dcotors send people to AA all the time. It works. No drugs involved. you do not have to humble yourself! In fact you will find the dignity you threw away as a drunk in AA!!
AA is only a cult if you make it one for yourself. AA is a SUPPORT GROUP. A SUPPORT GROUP is really really important if you want to stay off the alcohol. AA has some excellent SUGGESTIONS about how to stay Sober which in fact are evolved from a religiious if not Catholic group called the Oxford Group. Staying off alcohol involves, yes abstinence but also character development. It involves confession, reparation, changes in daily habits from self-pity and self-absorption to knowing yourself and being willing to change, forgive, take responsibilty and grow, involvement of God (when you’re ready for that accordign to your own lights), and finally sharing with others on whatever level you find comfortable. Yoy are confusing been made to be humble publically with humility which is a kind of important spiritual characteristic.
I will admit there is a rather loud group in every AA environment that preaches, demands, says you have to do what they sya or you will “get drunk” but frankly in the end those needy people have little power over YOUR sobriety, really. You go there, listen to the ideas, try them out, maybe meet a few like-minded souls, ask them to help you, (if you want and when you want) and go from there, the only thing being you have to want to stop drinking. If you have alcoholic problems why would you want to keep drinking??? And trust me many problems that look like “depression” or “insecurity” or “uncontrolled temper” are really side effects of drinking.
And you can trust me.