I am Puerto Rican, but never lived there for long, mostly here in America. I speak better English than Spanish, but can speak it pretty good. My husband is not hispanic but he knew to ask my dad’s hand in marriage from my brother-in-law who is also hispanic. In fact all my sister’s husband did this. It is a family custom. Since we were raised here, we did not have to have a sister with us while dating. I was also already very old, 33yr old, when I met my husband and before that I rarely dated. I thought I was going to be a nun.
It is true that hispanic family’s are very close and the Catholic Faith is not just a religion, but a way of life. Please don’t do what my dh has done and that is once we were married, he refused to eat hispanic foods and still does, and agreed I could talk to our children in Spanish and he in English, so the children would know both, but again once we had a a child he complained because he could not understand our daughter. So now my daughter know only the Spanish she is learning in school. She is more interested in it now, so I speak a little more to her. I also before marriage asked my husband to learn Spanish, and he promised to, but here we are in our 8th year of marriage and still he doesn’t know any Spanish. It is a part of me that I feel is being lost in our marriage and a part of me, my culture, that my daughter will know nothing about. She doesn’t like hispanic foods either, for when we gather at my parents, my mom cooks my husband something “American” that he likes and my daughter follows.
I know that Mexicans, like any hispanic, is proud of their culture and history, and want that for their children. Language, food and some customs are always nice to learn before and during the marriage.
I will say that I was fearful in not marrying a hispanic, but I will say that I have 4 sisters and two are divorced, both of them married hispanics. These men where just more macho and did not like to be told of anything. That is not how marriage should be. I do know that I had a person give me some statistic, which I don’t remember, except that when a hispanic woman married a non-hispanic marriages lasted longer then when a hispanic man married a non-hispanic woman. I don’t know if that is true.
If you marry this woman, please be prepared to spend lots of time with her family and at family gatherings.
One movie I like, even though there is pre-marital sex, is “Fools Rush In” and this is a Mexican woman who marry’s a "white’ man.