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I've recently started my journey toward becoming Catholic, and last night I had one of those middle of the night realizations that causes something that I already knew to seem really real and scary...at some point I have to confess my sins out loud to another person. :eek:
What I'm wondering is this, when you go to confession, how specific are you supposed to be? In my teens and early twenties, let's just say that I "sowed some wild oats" (some oats on more than one occasion). Of course, I use this euphemism because I am feeling ashamed of just how sinful I have been.
I found this list of mortal sins fall under each of the ten commandments. followthissite.com/list-of-sins.php Hypothetically speaking, let's say that I committed 6 of the sins listed under the 5th commandment. When in the confessional, do I say all 6 and give the frequency/time period/situation? (oh goodness, I may be in there a while). Or does a person just say that they have broken the 5th commandment?
Also, I see on this website, that it lists using NFP under the 6th commandment. Is this site a reliable source that I should be using? Isn't NFP permissable?
Keep in mind with sins, three conditions must be met in order that they be mortal. From the Catechism: 1857 For a sin to be mortal, three conditions must together be met: "Mortal sin is sin whose object is grave matter and which is also committed with full knowledge and deliberate consent."131
So, can NFP be a mortal sin? Yep, but it would be so, for example, in a case where the spouses were practicing it to prevent a baby because they were willfully being selfish, not because they had a reason they actually considered serious, they knew that, and decided to purposefully not conceive anyway. However, I don't think most of the time, this would apply to most couples practicing NFP. You can read more here: ewtn.com/expert/answers/nfp_serious_motives.htm
As for confession, it's such a great sacrament! I was gone from the Catholic Church for 15 years and I go to confession all the time now. Yes, that first confession (and even some since then) took a while, but was well worth it to have that weight off my shoulders. Just remember, whatever you're about to tell the priest, he's likely heard it before, and then some. I thought I would get some shocked gasps at the least, but every time I've been, the priest didn't so much as raise an eyebrow at my sins. They do sometimes ask for clarification, but they don't get much into the details, just enough to figure out if you've done anything else serious, or in order to counsel you a bit, which I think is nice. It's like free therapy. :thumbsup:
Welcome to the Church!! :hug1: