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I must admit that it gets to me.
Those in the family that have no religion often take jabs at the Catholic Church. The young adults try to temp or bully or pressure the Catholic kids into all kinds of things. I feel that behavior is somewhat "normal", but it ticks me off.
But what really gets to me is the constant barbs or jabs about the priest abuse scandles, chastity, abortion, communion, mean nuns, etc., etc., etc., etc.
I normally defend without making a scene, but I must admit I would love a couple of insulting zingers to shut them up.
How do you handle it?
Well, when the talk turns to "mean nuns", you could pull out a ruler and start waving it around...:D
Seriously, though, without knowing all your family members up close, it is hard to gauge what "zingers" will work on whom. But it does seem that defending yourself without making a scene as you are doing right now is really the best route to go. I will just offer a few thoughts:
1) As far as the priest abuse scandals and "mean nuns", unfortunately, that is a real problem we have to acknowledge and deal with.
2) Above all, before you do anything rash, research the myths and defenses against them and become well-grounded and well-educated. Facts in and of itself present the best "zingers" of all.
3) How old are you in relation to the "bullies"?
4) Is the "bullying" or "pressuring" of the kids related to trying to get them to do something immoral? If so, then you have every right to be outraged. You may have to take the kids aside to "undo the damage".
5) Confrontation in and of itself is not wrong and sometimes is neccessary, especially if you have to protect the younger kids from scandal and/or if you are dealing with males and have to play "alpha dog" games. A last resort would be to ask if they are saying the things they are saying because of guilty consciences over something they should not be doing in the first place like if they are cohabitating or disobeying the Church's marriage laws).
6) Download some photos of aborted babies from www.priestsforlife.org to your cell phone in case you need it in an abortion discussion and you feel it is necessary to show what abortion really does.
7) If you have to avoid them, you have to avoid them.