[quote="catholictiger, post:7, topic:249768"]
for a priest I suspect you won't know this till you get ordained, there will always be a desire for marriage, I suspect.
I don't believe that's true. For those who are called to the vocation of marriage but have not yet married, I imagine the desire for marriage would always exist, but, personally, I have no desire for marriage. It is, as I see it, an impediment to learning, or "growing in grace and in knowledge", service to the wider community/Church/Body of Christ, and freedom in the Lord; by this, "freedom", I mean:
As St Paul said, "He who is unmarried, will think of how best to serve and please the Lord; he who is married, will think of how best to please his wife".
Or, that marriage is, in a sense, the quintessence of worldliness, and, as it pertains to the partners in the marriage and the instincts that are thus aroused, but that it remains necessary for perpetuating the human race until the end-times, as God has made it clear, contrary to human logic and intuition, that children should be born.
Or, in a sense, to be a good husband, or to please the spouse, one must lose a certain freedom of conscience, service, duty, and knowledge, unless the two consciences and souls are always in perfect accord (which can not be due to the fallen nature of man). The dissonance will be repealed under Christ in the New Creation so that God's original plan - "that two become of one flesh" (and, implicitly, of one everything, mind, soul) - is in reality actualised, as it is now not due to, again, the fallen nature of man (although this is an entire discipline of theology, nothing for a post on an internet forum).
In any case, the vocation's closed to me, as a marriage is not valid if one or more of the spouses is not open to the idea of having children, in the sense of bringing a new soul in to the world (as opposed to adoption, or spiritual fatherhood, or ministry, etc.), as I am not. The vocation of parent is integral to the vocation of spouse, and I have no longing for either, but I'd be a husband far sooner than I'd be a father: but, in Catholicism, one can not be a husband, if one is not willing to be a father.
Even if I was called to marriage, I'd give myself better odds on have a successful vocation to the Papacy itself out of the sins of pride and avarice, having to work my way from illiterate Mahometanism, through conversion, up through the episcopate, than I would lay odds on myself to a successful vocation to marriage.
Of the women, or girls, I have known, I'd have to bet that one in five have children on their own, whether from a previous marriage or an illicit union (most often illicit union), and less than one in ten are virgins - without even getting in to non-sexual morality, or what people would call a "good" or "pious" person - already 90%+ of women are automatically disqualified. And it's not as if I'm looking for something that fits a younger age group, or too high of a standard - I'm in my early 20s, and the people I speak of - not one of them is older than 25 or 27! If I was to jape about it, I would say that the other one in ten were probably Lesbians.
Most of the people I have known, male and female, have been of bankrupt morality, no matter what religion they profess, few follow the moral precepts, no offense to any people I have not met who do, and are good and pious individuals.