[quote="catholictiger, post:17, topic:249768"]
wow long post to a simple one lol
anyway once someone is ordained maybe the desire of being married disappears but I don't think so. I have heard from people who have been in seminary or are rectors of seminary that a desire to being married is natural and candidates for the priesthood should have that desire in them before getting ordained. I know it may not make sense, but I believe God puts in us a desire to want to be with someone else, he puts in us attractions to people of the opposite sex. Its natural. As part as my application process I have been asked a couple of times in a direct way or indirect way do you feel attracted to the married life. While I don't feel attracted enough not to go to seminary I do feel some attraction for it. That is natural and that is what should be in all seminarians. If they do not feel an attraction to married life there could be something seriously wrong with them, and they may not be ready for seminary. You have to understand as a priest what life you are sacrificing, and when you choose the life of a priest you understand while that is a natural calling and while married life is great it isn't for you.
I suspect again I'm not sure, but I suspect that a priest will always always have a attraction to married life (that may be another way to say it) but when he is ordained he understands that married life isn't for him, and I'm sure he takes those desires and he works them into his ministry.
If all Men and Women truly do have a desire for married life, and that desire comes from God himself, I suspect it will always be a part of their life, but the men and women who choose single life choose not to act on that desire. There will be desires that all of us won't act on because its not part of God's will. Major and Minor.
I don't want to argue this but I hope you see where I am coming from.
btw sorry I didn't respond to specific points in your post, I'm talking about desire, many men will have a desire to be married even though they may not be called to it or don't have the good qualities of a married men. But I also believe that all good priest would have made great fathers, and all great fathers would have made good priest. Priesthood is kinda like spiritual fatherhood.
I never said I had no attraction or romantic feelings for women, merely that I have no attraction to marriage or children, and, I can not legally express attraction to women if I am not willing to be married or have children; expressing attraction towards the opposite sex when one is not married is called fornication, if I remember correctly. I believe further that the sexual act as it exists today, and the bonding between two people, is, unlike the love of God and a life of service, inherently disordered by original sin, to give rise to jealousy, etc., as it did not do before the Fall.
Also, to make a point, which you seem to miss or to ignore, not everyone who doesn't have an attraction to women is homosexual: some have no attraction at all, and, at that, I do not believe that celibate homosexuals, who can not have a vocation to marriage, should be barred from the priesthood, and neither does the church the last time I checked (unless they have "deeply seated" instead of "transitory" homosexual tendencies: I do not know how this is quantified; all homosexual acts disqualify one, as should all heterosexual acts).
I do see where you're coming from - a misunderstanding of my writing. Don't worry, my English many times is still not up to par at communicating ideas, especially in writing (I'm not a native speaker). I'm working on it.
And, at the risk of sounding prideful, if I dedicated myself to it, I would be a good father and a good husband, I believe. I'm not willing nor hardly able to have children for other reasons, which I shan't list here, and, as the main point of my previous post stated, I think that being a good husband limits (essentially, read the below as "I believe marriage is an impediment to") one's "freedom in Christ" to grow in "grace and knowledge of the Lord" and to "love all of the brethren", and "to love the Lord your God with all your heart", to be a "blessing" or "service" to the Church and world, especially for one in my position and of my talents.
Essentially, many choices aren't between what's bad and what's good, or what we don't want and what we do want: many choices are sacrifices, choosing between what is good and what is better, what we want, and what we want more.**