[quote="Joseph629, post:4, topic:179671"]
While I truly cannot identify with your problem (I have children), I certainly empathize totally. I have friends in your situation. I find that I am often counceling single people who are very jealous of their friends who are married. Let me ask you, what would you (do you) tell single people who have been searching for years looking for a spouse? All I can say to them is that God knows our needs, He is in charge, and He certainly knows what is best for us today, and in the future. I recently heard of someone that was having great difficulty adopting, then, suddenly things fell into place for them. Was it the system?, -or was it God saying NOW is the time. Personally, I became jealous of all the men who had work and were providing for their families when I became ill. One benefit from that (for me anyway) was that I had a lot of time on my hands to pray for other people with difficulties, and now dear Prolife, I will certainly keep you in my prayers. I will lift you and your husband up daily to our loving and understanding Lord. Joseph.
I would second this. People look at large families and automatically believe they are blessed, but they sometimes assume that they are the only ones bearing a cross, hence the jealousy. I, for one, have 5 kids, and my wife and I are still in our early 30's. I listen to people tell me that we're blessed, and I'm thinking, "Blessed?! My wife is so fertile, she and I risk pregnancy every time!" NFP truly is a cross for couples who have no problems conceiving, and childless couples sometimes seem to have no idea how hard it is to not be able to embrace your spouse for extended periods. In the interest of the whole picture, kid #3 was conceived while she was breastfeeding full-time. So for now, we wait for her period to restart, which should be around the time the trees are green again. :bighanky:
We all have our crosses. Whether or not we are willing to trade them with others is a matter of perspective. As long as we accept them as they are given, our reward will compensate us in the end. The best way to let go of jealousy is to ask God for the understanding to accept His will for us. It usually doesn't happen until we do ask. I hope things do work out for the OP. Whenever they do, hopefully the reason for the wait will make sense as well.