[quote=JMJ Theresa]One thing I am realizing through this thread is that quite possibly there is nothing (aside from prayer and fasting) that I can do.
There is one other thing you can do … LOVE (verb) him, exactly where he is RIGHT NOW. Not with a "if only he would … " attitude, but right now.
[quote=JMJ Theresa]If I was dating now, I would pick a devout Catholic man to marry. But, I think I did pretty well for the state of ignorance I was in at the time I married. I think that this man, my dh, has brought me to the Church despite his lack of commitment to the Faith. God is so good to me!
Okay, I remember this stage, you’ll want to pass through this as quickly as you can, so listen carefully … continue praying, but your goal should be not to change your husband, but to be transformed yourself. To be able to say (whether he changes OR NOT) “If I was dating now, I would marry him all over again.” You will be able to say this because of a deeper trust in God’s providence. This is a GOOD thing.
God has a plan for you, to bring you into a more deeper trust of Him. In fact, He will use the very things you “think” will hinder your families relationship with Him, to bring you closer to Him and to eachother. Nothing can come between His love for you and your family, and this is His way of giving you the opportunity to let Him show you again and in a deeper way. This is exciting, because when you allow God to transform you, and love your husband with a more perfect (unconditional) love, than you will see the fruits you so desire. Remember, it is YOU He is teaching right now, what are you learning?
BTW, although my first instinct might have been to laugh with my daughter, or give my husband a “knowing look,” I have since learned a better way. But I am not going to tell you … this is your time to learn for yourself. I’ll give you the answer, but it will be God who shows you the way (that is unique to you and your husband) and gives you the means to travel it. It is HIS LOVE. Be that vehicle for your husband, and you will be amazed at how quickly God will reciprocate His love TO YOU … (pause) … but in a new way … through the very avenue you think to be an obstacle … YOUR HUSBAND.
Enjoy the ride, baby … you are in for more happiness than you will know what to do with.