How does one manage sexual desire in a healthy way?



I had stated what vocations were & marrying was only one that was allowed sex for procreation. Though, in marriage, needs reminders, prayers, etc
God bless



This is a prayer of St.Benedict of Nursia.
It shows he had temptations & concerns.

O Lord, I place myself in your hands and dedicate myself to you. I pledge myself to do your will in all things: To love the Lord God with all my heart, all my soul, all my strength. Not to kill. Not to steal. Not to covet. Not to bear false witness. To honor all persons. Not to do to another what I would not wish done to myself. To chastise the body. Not to seek after pleasures. To love fasting. To relieve the poor. To clothe the naked. To visit the sick. To bury the dead. To help in trouble. To console the sorrowing. To hold myself aloof from worldly ways. To prefer nothing to the love of Christ. Not to give way to anger. Not to foster a desire for revenge. Not to entertain deceit in the heart. Not to make a false peace. Not to forsake charity. Not to swear, lest I swear falsely. To speak the truth with heart and tongue. Not to return evil for evil. To do no injury: yea, even to bear patiently any injury done to me. To love my enemies. Not to curse those who curse me, but rather to bless them. To bear persecution for justice’ sake. Not to be proud. Not to be given to intoxicating drink. Not to be an over-eater. Not to be lazy. Not to be slothful. Not to be a murmured. Not to be a detractor. To put my trust in God. To refer the good I see in myself to God. To refer any evil in myself to myself. To fear the Day of Judgment. To be in dread of hell. To desire eternal life with spiritual longing. To keep death before my eyes daily. To keep constant watch over my actions. To remember that God sees me everywhere. To call upon Christ for defense against evil thoughts that arises in my heart. To guard my tongue against wicked speech. To avoid much speaking. To avoid idle talk. To read only what is good to read. To look at only what is good to see. To pray often. To ask forgiveness daily for my sins, and to seek ways to amend my life. To obey my superiors in all things rightful. Not to desire to be thought holy, but to seek holiness. To fulfill the commandments of God by good works. To love chastity. To hate no one. Not to be jealous or envious of anyone. Not to love strife. Not to love pride. To honor the aged. To pray for my enemies. To make peace after a quarrel, before the setting of the sun. Never to despair of your mercy, O God of Mercy. Amen.

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I agree. Think Godly, REBUKE EVIL.

I am a child of God. I love Him & will follow Him. I will chose His path& reject paths that will jeopardize my soul. I’ll mlneed forgiveness & mercy. In Jesus name

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Just for this moment, take a deep breath, & inhale the Love of God. Picture Him filling up every fiber of your being. Say the two great commandments.
I SHALL LOVE GOD W MY WHOLE HEART & MY WHOLE SOUL & MIND & TO LOVE MY NEIGHBOR AS TO LOVE MYSELF! He commands me to love myself. But, I know what my mind says. I’m ashamed. But, if I confess, I am forgiven. My sins are caste out into the Sea. of forgetfulness. I must forgive myself. For this moment I feel loved & Holy. Thank You, Jesus ABBA. In Jesus name. Amen



I think to myself, if I can feel this much longing and desire to be with someone else, how much more does Jesus want to be with me?



You got it! Focus that longing in Jesus. Grow your Spirit. Commit to your mind what God says about sex, vocations & marriage. Stay away from chick flicks & sexually explicit items. That longing is what God wants us to feel for Him. Don’t believe Satan’s lies. He’s a thief that comes in the night to kill, steal & destroy. Let nothinhydestroy your relationship w God. In Jesus name


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