How does one reconcile some of today’s readings (Sunday, Sept. 17, 2017) with how they and others are actually treated at their own parishes?
No where else I frequent do I observe people being treated with such indifference and outright rudeness. If I did, I would simply stop attending. I would go elsewhere.
The politics can be appalling. The typical outcome is for good people is to drift away and leave the parish, further raising the remaining parish toxicity level. Realizing there will be no corrective action after many, many years (and pastors), the only way I survive is to forgive those who have wronged me and then do everything I can to completely avoid/ignore them, particularly when it comes to how they are allowed to continue to mistreat others.
I’m sure some parish communities are not like mine, but I have taken great pains to choose the least offensive one in my local deanery. I’m also so very tired of the excuses for the poor behavior of those “in charge” at my parish towards others. While I honestly don’t feel any hatred today as I once did, I do sometimes feel disgust towards those at my parish who treat people poorly, and do so from a position of power/control.
How to reconcile some of today’s readings with what actually is allowed to take part in many parishes?
Sirach 27:30-28.9 Wrath and anger are hateful things, yet the sinner hugs them tight. The vengeful will suffer the LORD’S vengeance, for he remembers their sins in detail. Forgive your neighbor’s injustice; then when you pray, your own sins will be forgiven. Should a man nourish anger against his fellows and expect healing from the LORD? Should a man refuse mercy to his fellows, yet seek pardon for his own sins? If he who is but flesh cherishes wrath, who will forgive his sins? Remember your last days, set enmity aside; remember death and decay, and cease from sin! Think of the commandments, hate not your neighbor; of the Most High’s covenant, and overlook faults. Avoid strife and your sins will be fewer, for a quarrelsome man kindles disputes, Commits the sin of disrupting friendship and sows discord among those at peace.
Matthew 18:21-35 Then Peter approaching asked him, Lord, if my brother sins against me, how often must I forgive him? As many as seven times? Jesus answered, I say to you, not seven times but seventy-seven times…