[quote="Meklin, post:5, topic:288373"]
JRKH - Thanks. For more explanation see my first post on these forums http://forums.catholic.com/showthread.php?t=684718 but short answer is it would be up to my wife to seek the annulment, and as a non practicing Jew she is not inclined to "It's between you and your church". :(
Took advice from this forum and made appointment to see my parish priest, who had no advice to offer me other than to pray for her conversion and to not to continue to have sex with her. Totally understand the advice but after 10 years of marriage and a six year old daughter I know that will drive her away.
Sorry if I am sounding a little bitter, but thats the way I feel at the moment.
I just read the other post...(The link above did not work but I found it HERE.)
You are indeed in a difficult situation and I can understand your frustration.
Frankly I do not understand your wife's attitude - that she is not willing to seek an annulment in order to bring peace to her husband who she claims to Love. Especially since, given your description, the annulment would, in all likelihood, be granted easily. I have to ask myself, what does this say about her love for you? Does she not understand how difficult this is for you? How you are tormented by being separated from the Eucharist? That you would not ask this of her if it weren't of critical importance to you? How is it that she can say no to you??? I just don't understand...
But - I do not wish to judge since I do not know her. There may well be factors involved that I have no idea of.
You stated in the other thread that, "Her view is that it’s between me and my church".
I wonder what her response would be if you told her that you could no longer have sexual relations....Not that you didn't want to but that you can't - and when she objected you say - Sorry dear but, "it’s between me and my church"...:shrug:
I just can't see that going over too well.
Sorry - I know that this is all off topic here....
I can't really say what is "fair" either for you or for friend who is receiving through the ordinariate, nor can we really offer much more advice than to simply keep praying for you wife's conversion - or at least that her heart soften to the point where she sees how difficult this is all being for you. A real problem that I see is that, while you don't wish to do something to drive her away (you love her), she seems to have no problem doing something that drives a wedge between you and Christ in the Eucharist...
Forgive me if any of the above sounds overly harsh. I too have some negative history when it comes to marital relations and occasionally it still rears it's ugly head....:blush: