[quote="chepner3, post:11, topic:272025"]
All I can say is, while cremation is often cheaper, when I arranged for my grandmother's funeral, the cost was only $850 (plus the airfare to get her back to her 'home state' which was a plane ticket cheaper than mine.) The funeral doesn't have to be expensive, if costs are an issue.
That will depend on location. I am not sure why your grandmother needed a ticket. When my sister transported our mother, there was no addition cost. :confused:
If your aunt's husband's ashes are buried, they can still be buried together. My husband insists on burial and I prefer to be cremated. We'll be buried together and already own our plots.
Someone would need to pay to open and close the uncle's grave. If the person being cremated dies first, one can simply wait until the second person dies. If the person to be buried dies first, they must be buried. Then the grave is opened/closed after the death of the second person.
Either way, my experience has been that the funeral home is the one who puts on the most time-limit restricts - usually due to costs and space limitations at their facility. We had one family member who died right at the wrong time of the year. Family couldn't travel due to bad weather and it was difficult scheduling because of the holidays. The funeral got pushed out, but only so far, because after a while the funeral home was going to charge us "storage fees".
There is also the problem of ...............well.............decay. (Sorry, but it needs mentioned.) One cannot wait weeks or months and understand that there will be some decay.
All that said, your family can shop around for another funeral home and have her transferred so she can be buried according to your wishes. The new funeral home will handle the situation with the current funeral home (tell them about the transfer, issue the death certificate, pick-up the body, etc.)
This isn't a problem with the funeral home. This is a family problem. One part of the family wants to have the remains cremated, one part wants the remains buried. Unless the deceased wrote down what she wanted, this may end up in court. If the deceased didn't have enough of an estate to pay for burial, that may have standing in court. :shrug: