[quote="MaryEllen1951, post:1, topic:381176"]
I am beyond upset.
Based on what you've written here, I can't imagine how upsetting this must be for you; it sounds horribly upsetting... :(
I was baptized as an infant 63 years ago in a Greek Catholic church (Byzantine Rite). My entire family switched over to Roman Catholic years later, and both my older sister and brother were married in a Roman Catholic church.
Although you and your family worshiped in a Latin rite parish, you are still considered Eastern Catholics.
I fell away from the church about 40 years ago and returned just last year. I had married in a Methodist church 24 years ago
Here's where the story begins to be heartbreaking...
It became even more painful when I found out I could not receive communion until after the marriage convalidation. I have sat in the back of the church each and every Sunday and holy day of obligation since September 2013, crying my eyes out.
Your inability to validly receive the sacraments didn't start in September 2013, though; it started when you married outside of the Church. It sounds harsh -- and it clearly is very painful for you! -- but our decisions have consequences, and you're feeling the pain of the consequences of your decisions. Praise be to God that you're working to return to participation in the sacraments!
I don't think my brother and sister had to wait that long to get their permissions to marry in Roman Catholic churches, but they both married Catholics, which may or may not made a difference in their situations.
Yes -- this is precisely what makes all the difference! A Latin Rite Catholic priest has jurisdiction over Latin Rite Catholics. If a couple comes to him, and neither of them are Latin Rite Catholics, then he has no right to marry them. If one of them is an Eastern Rite Catholic and the other a non-Catholic, then he has the right to marry them -- if the bishop of the Eastern Rite Catholic gives him permission to do so. In the case of your brother and sister, the fact that they married (Latin Rite) Catholics is precisely the reason why the priest had jurisdiction to marry them. In your case, that's not the situation. Perhaps you could ask your priest if there's someone you could speak with -- a canonist in the tribunal who specializes in Eastern Rite Canon law, or an Eastern Rite priest in the area who might counsel you?
Because of the process itself and the length of time it is taking, my husband is completely turned off regarding the Catholic religion.
You've made amazing, significant progress in this amount of time! You asked the Church to determine whether there were any valid prior marriages -- and they've done the research and answered 'no'!
Now, there's a different situation: you're asking the Latin Rite diocese to make a request of an Eastern Rite eparchy. You're dealing with two distinct bureaucracies. It takes time. (In the meantime, you are personally feeling the effects of having to wait. Your anguish is completely understandable!)
Recently, my faith has been under attack and I have stopped going to church the last 3 weeks.
Your faith in Christ is under attack because bureaucracies are slow and inefficient? :hmmm:
I am feeling angry at my priest. I have poured my heart out on 3 separate occasions to him, but have received no advice or guidance of any sort on how to get through this and no words that comfort me.
Does your priest have any prior experience dealing with the complexities of navigating Eastern and Latin canon law? Did your priest know that your husband had two prior marriages when he said "you have to fill out some forms"? Did he know that you were, in fact, not a Latin Rite Catholic but an Eastern Rite Catholic?
Perhaps he caused you to have a false set of expectations... but he didn't tell you any untruths. At the point you entered into the confessional, you were unable to receive the Eucharist... at least, until you resolved the issues that you're currently working through. Is it his fault that there are so many issues to resolve?
I no longer am feeling like this will be a joyful occasion, and I really do not want him to be the one to perform the ceremony but I feel like I'm stuck with him.
So, find another priest to perform the convalidation. But, don't blame him for the situation in which you find yourself.
At least the diocese kept us informed every step of the way during the Tribunal process and I knew it would take at least a year. Now, it's one big question mark. If I could just know when to expect to get past this final step, it would help.
Right; this makes sense. Perhaps you might contact the tribunal to ask for their best estimates and their guidance...?