My brother wanted to go see Thor: Ragnarok today because he had time off and no one else wanted to go with him. I went because I wanted to be a good brother. He didn’t really know much about Spotlight, but I had told him about it and Ruffalo’s actions during the car ride home. Before I go into detail of what today’s experience was like here’s what Ruffalo and members of the creative team did back in 2016 that really affected me and my high-functioning Autism.
On IMDB message boards, which have now thankfully been shut down, I posted that I was boycotting the Oscars because of what he had done and how I thought he was disrespecting one of the Ten Commandments, which was “Remember the sabbath day, to keep it holy.” People said I was overreacting and there was nothing wrong what he has was doing because he was standing with those who had been sexually abused. On Twitter, I wrote him a message and called him a monster. He didn’t reply and I don’t think he cared what I said if he even bothered to read it. Looking back that wasn’t the best thing of me to do because I needed to remember to hate the sin not the sinner.
As for today at first, it was difficult to see Ruffalo’s face on the big screen for the first time in two years after all the things he had done that badly affected me. However, I remembered a sermon a priest gave the other week about how not holding a huge grudge towards someone can make you a better person. I also remembered Father Robert Barron’s review of the 2015 Cinderella film and how it was Christian like of the lead character to forgive someone after all of the terrible things that they did.
I also recalled how I decided to forgive someone who had cyber-bullied me back in 2008. It was hard at first, but after speaking to a Jesuit man he said that constantly harboring ill-will feelings towards someone wasn’t good for me. I was at peace after I had forgiven the bully. So, I forgive Ruffalo for all the things he might’ve done which upset me. That doesn’t mean I have to like him or see his projects, but forgiving him is the right thing to do.
With Thanksgiving happening tomorrow I am thankful that God loves me and I have a very supportive family and a group of friends who are always there for me. I also have a great job and terrific group of co-workers and that truly is what is most important in my life.