Yes, that may be a provocative title, but I don’t mean at all to ask this question in that way. I’m just asking, and realizing it’s things like this that make you Catholic’s jobs as apologists and explainers so difficult.
Also, I hope and expect that all of you reading this (those who are married) would not pay anything for an anullment because you are all happily sacramentally married, and would neither want to nor have the option of an annulment. You want and plan to stay happily married, and that’s awesome!
But on to my question…
Here’s the situation as I understand it:
Some distant family members are Catholic (well, to some extent, obviously one of them is not too faithful, it appears). And the guy is married with children. Well, he wants to marry his “mistress” and not be with his wife. So, he goes to the Church, and after whatever time and discussions, he is told he will be granted an annulment for $22,000.
Ok, I realize that there are times and places for annulments. But to marry some woman you’re having an affair with (presumably, I’m not there, but it’s from first hand account, hearsay in other words, but still…), that’s not a valid reason, is it? How can the original “marriage” be so easily annuled? I guess they could both just say “well, uh, we didn’t really plan on having children and staying together forever, and it wasn’t on our own free will that we even got married, so it was invalid.”
And $22,000??? I know you shouldn’t expect something for nothing, but that’s kind of steep!!!
What are your thoughts on this matter, and the topic in general about “illicit annulments?” Even if this is not a case of one, surely there are some…