OK, so I finally got over my stupid self-pitying and thought I should spend some time with a young lady who I am interested in.
Problem is, I found myself being completely misunderstood, we were with a group of friends, and I moved from sitting beside her to sitting firmly between two other guys to avoid being too close or making her feel uncomfortable, and tried my best not to look at her body or too deeply into her eyes to avoid the impression that I was treating her as an object. I tried to get to know her, but in a group setting, and tried to avoid anything that would suggest lustful interest.
I tried to take a genuine interest in what she had to say, and to be as open as I could in introducing myself, but all the time being extremely careful to avoid any sense that I was interested in anything other than her personality.
Problem is, I think I came across as totally uninterested in her in any way, and now she’s surprised that I still want to meet up for a date.
Aargh! What to do? Please don’t tell me I need to find someone else who is more committed to purity, because this girl is one of the most devout young Catholic women I have ever met, an absolute saint.