for example if someone calls you names when they are angry or says mean things. and when you try to voice the fact that you are hurt by it, they respond with something like “oh well, I don’t do it all the time.” or “you just made me too angry so you deserved it”
well, I mean, no, they are not angry every day and they can be nice and helpful, but other times they are not. and I think I tend to justify the bad behaviour and rationalize it because it doesn’t happen all the time and I try to overpower it with the good things they do.
and what do you do with someone who likes to guilt-trip a lot?