[quote="IneedGod, post:1, topic:295580"]
As an RCIA candidate I know you are required to go to confession at least 1x/year.
My conundrum is this: We were chatting after rosary group and someone mentioned going to confession at least 1x/year. I said ( half joking) I might want to go daily. It was replied that I must be a "really bad person". I dont think they really meant it but I dont understand how
1x'year would suffice because you cant recieve if you are not in a state of grace.
Maybe I am confused on how often to recieve as well?
I dont think I am a " really bad person" but I know I am not where I wish I was either.
I dont fully understand venial vs mortal sin and I am sure it will at sometime be covered at RCIA, however wouldnt sloth be mortal as it is one of the 7 deadly sins?
There are also those things that seem to pop into my head that I immediately ask god to
forgive me for.
So.............am I worse than I think I am or just really confused?
Oh I just realized how that sounded, I do not recieve and I know I cant until after confimation.
The once a year requirement is simply a minimum standard. How often you SHOULD go to confession is not so much a rule of thumb as it is a formula that is dependent on two very personal factors:
1) have you sinned mortally?
2) do you have some form of contrition for that sin, and desire not to sin again?
If the answer to the first question is yes, then it's time for you NOT to recieve communion. If the answer to BOTH questions is yes, then it's time for you to go to confession. As often as needed. That is it. You can go daily if needed, or weekly, or monthly. I generally end up having to go every month or two (and I think that's probably the most common and reasonable).
As to mortal sins, the church defines certain acts as gravely disordered (they go greatly against what we as humans were created for), and thus they sever us from our rightful state as humans (meaning, that they cut us off from the salvific grace of God). Generally speaking, one can know what a mortal sin is by looking at a good examination of conscience. This website has some basics and a basic list (not exclusive of other acts!)
I also will note that something like sloth, while traditionally called a deadly sin, is not a mortal sin. It's more common these days to understand the "7 deadly sins" as the 7 deadly vices. Sloth is an attitude, a vice in human nature, that LEADS to sin, and allows us to fall into ACTS which are sinful.
Understand, for something to be mortally sinful it must be an ACT (including thoughts) which is:
1) Grave matter
2) Done with knowledge that it IS grave matter
3) Done with free will
Sloth, not being an act, is a vice that can be resisted... so someone's conscupience (tendency to sin) can be affected by vice, while they might resist it in all aspects of their lives and be extremely devout and holy... eventually building on their virtues to destroy the vice of sloth. To wit, the seven deadly vices are attitudes and frames of mind which expose us to greater propensity to do sinful acts... but they can be resisted and fought off