My mother stayed home and minded the kids (me) and never held a paying job for the 50 years after she was married though she had had a career before.
She handled all the bills because Dad liked her to do that; he didn’t really want to deal with it. But she did not spend Dad’s money in a significant way (such as on a car) without Dad’s significant input.
This has nothing to do with worthlessness. Mom was not a wimp and was very assertive and raised me to be that way. But the bottom line is that when one person is making the money, then the other person doesn’t just get their way about spending it.
I didn’t work for a couple years because I was in school, on my own loan in my own name that I paid off myself and did not expect my husband to pay off in any way, shape or form because it would have been unfair and burdensome on him. Nor did he (or my parent) co-sign for my loan. During that time, my husband paid for my groceries and other necessities, and carried me on his medical insurance. I did not go out and buy cars, go on vacation, or pay my massive tuition bills on his dime. Once I was out, I assumed responsibility for my own debt, including structuring it so that if I died he would not have to pay it, and making sure he knew that.
I realize couples have different ways of working these things out, but I personally think that each half of a couple should make the effort to not burden the other with avoidable debt. If something unavoidable happens, like job loss or illness, then you have to pull together as a couple, but you don’t just expect the other person to go along with your own money wishes, and the more you can just take care of things yourself, the less worry it is for the other person.