OK, I’m finally reading this article:
So far, no “final say” and lots of “servant leadership.”
This was iffy:
“Eve is not alone in the category of disobedient Old Testament wives. Samson’s two wives, Gomer, Lot’s wife, Rebecca, and Michal, among others, brought grief to themselves or to those around them. But in the Old Testament there are many wives of the other sort, too. Peter recalls some of them in the course of his instruction to contemporaneous married women: “Rather, let your adornment be the inner self with the lasting beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in God’s sight. It was in this way long ago that the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves by accepting the authority of their husbands. Thus Sarah obeyed Abraham and called him lord” (1 Pet. 3:4–6).”
We have no reason to think that God was unhappy with Rebekah. Her methods are definitely not tip top 21st century wifing (having her favorite son masquerade as her husband’s favorite son to steal his birthright), but Jacob had bought the birthright fair and square, Jacob was indeed God’s chosen, and Rebecca is revered in the Jewish tradition. Also, she herself was chosen by divine providence for Isaac. Also, she had been told by God when she felt the twin sons struggling within her,
“Two nations are in your womb,
and two peoples, born of you, shall be divided;
the one shall be stronger than the other,
the elder shall serve the younger.”
Presumably her subterfuge was partly motivated by her awareness that the younger son had a special mission, which he did in fact have. He became one of the patriarchs, whereas his brother (his father’s favorite) didn’t.
Likewise, Sarah told Abraham to send away Hagar (his slave wife) and God backed her up.
" 10 So she said to Abraham, “Cast out this slave woman with her son; for the son of this slave woman shall not be heir with my son Isaac.” 11 And the thing was very displeasing to Abraham on account of his son. 12 But God said to Abraham, “Be not displeased because of the lad and because of your slave woman; whatever Sarah says to you, do as she tells you, for through Isaac shall your descendants be named."
This is not the ultra-submissive Sarah we’re used to hearing about.
“The boy Jesus seems to have been a model child, one who obeyed his parents as Peter and Paul would instruct Christian children to do sixty or seventy years later: “Then he went down with [Mary and Joseph] and came to Nazareth, and was obedient to them” (Luke 2:51).”
How about Jesus’s staying at the Temple? That was not model child behavior.
“All persons, male and female, are subject to legitimate authority (government, law, teachers, employers), but apart from these, the only person a wife has to obey is her husband.”
That’s a lot of exceptions (government, law, teachers, employers).
I’m still not seeing the “final say” language here.