And St. James (Jakobus in German) continues in Jas 1,19 - 24
For human anger does not accomplish God’s righteousness. So put away all filth and evil excess and humbly welcome the message implanted within you, which is able to save your souls.
How right he is. But that’s not quite as easy as it seems, as we all got emotions, which sometimes are brimming over, and we explode. I mean - if I told someone many times that I hate his/her blaspheming and saucy questions - and that person does it again, (we got that here in CAF too often enough) - it would be a Saint’s job not to explode, and I’m no Saint!
I several times exploded on my regulars tables in certain social gatherings - just said „oh, shut up“ stood up an went! OK - on later occasions I saw these persons again and we where quite friendly. A lady even asked me: Are we friends again? Which I of course agreed (so I secretly NEVER could be friends with her! But I am friendly with her, same s with some other blasphemers, because we are to love our enemies.
They indeed where responsible for my feelings as the OP asked, but we must never never never be responsible for other people’s BAD feelings! That’s terribly important, as it’s Jesus Christ’s doctrine and command.
How come the above mentioned situations.
One guy made a terribly blasphemous „joke“ about the most Holy Mary’s conception of Jesus by the Holy Spirit. I rebuked him. We all know, that jokes about the Holy Spirit will never be forgiven - match Mat 12:31-32.
This guy is unteachable - he’ll never understand, because he doesn’t want to understand! As I see him often, I gave up to tell him, am friendly with him in smalltalk, let him have a nice life, for that’s all he’ll ever have.
The mentioned lady asked me, why on earth do we celebrate “this mad” Christmas - and she added: …just because of that Jesus?!… So I exploded - stood up and leaving I named her an ass-hole!
Same to her now: I see her often, I gave up to tell her as talks before where in vain, am friendly with her in smalltalk, let her have a nice life, for that’s all she’ll ever have.
In both and many similar cases, I am not going to be responsible for these people’s bad feelings continuously, but whatever they did or said am friendly with them again.
OK - they truly ought and deserved to have bad feelings about their disbelief and blaspheming, but they truly are to stupid, stubborn and obstinate to comprehend their doing and deadly beliefs about the alive God, who is as real as you and I.
We sadly enough got similar cases here in CAF.